Being An Outsider

    So lets be honest we have all been there. Everyone has had a situation in there life where you feel like you really do not fit in. Well I was thinking about that today and how a place I used to find comfort in is no longer the safe haven I made it out to be.
    Ok, so to be an outsider you first have to know what its like to fit in, what its like to be completely comfortable in a place, or with people. It takes time, it takes an openness and  a willingness to become comfortable in  any situation.
   But what makes you feel like an outsider, what can take a place that you love and turn it into a place you feel like you don't even know anymore? Well, I originally thought that everything else was changing, that the place I loved was becoming a different place. But when I truly looked at it, yes, the place I loved changed but deep inside I had changed more than it had. I had the new outlook, I had the new perception, I had this new feeling of being an outsider.
   My view was so centered on how to get the place back to what it used to be, when really I should've been trying to get me back to who I was. I never took the time to step back and allow myself to comprehend the new environment around me. I never aloud myself to feel comfortable, and the feeling of being an outsider insued.
   So it is preventable. You can feel comfortable in any situation you allow yourself to , you can be vulnerable and open and allow yourself the opportunity to discard the outsider feeling and feel comfortable. Sometimes all it takes is a change in perspective. So take a step back, look at what you want and where you are and allow yourself to feel good about whatever the future holds, because you will always feel like an outsider until you find out what true comfort is. And that comfort can changes everything.